Monthly Archives: December 2015

How much should you pay for a consultation?

What a question! How much IS an intuitive consultation worth? How much are people willing to pay? And should people even be expected to pay for such a service? Hmmm……..

A customer told me she had had a consultation online, and paid three times the amount she paid me……and felt she did not receive a comparable service. In her words: “You are so much better, and you are not charging enough”.

Another lady asked about my consultations, selected the one at the lowest price, but then decided against it because “You’re a bit expensive, aren’t you?”.

I used to hear “You shouldn’t charge for your gift, you are supposed to give it for free to help those in need” a lot. I haven’t heard it for years because I no longer mix with the kind of people who make those statements. They were always down – trodden, impoverished souls who believed being ‘spiritual’ went hand in hand with being skint and self sacrificial. And someone else was usually paying their mortgage/rent for them.

As it happens, I am in business. And I have never claimed to have a spiritual or psychic gift. I have an ability, something I have worked hard to develop over many years. I have hated my work, liked it again, hated it, liked it again……learned more, made changes, altered my prices, and discovered the joys of technology. I have been praised, featured on radio, appeared in publications, and performed to hundreds of audiences. I have been insulted, accused of being a con artist who prays on the vulnerable (by people who have never met me or had any association with me), and periodically harrassed and threatened by enraged women who probably require the services of a psychiatrist…….ah yes, welcome to business life on planet Earth!

I don’t know how much is the RIGHT amount to pay for the service I offer. I view my consultations as an investment in the future, because I have tons of evidence to show how valuable they generally prove to be, over time…..IF used. If I was a TV celeb I would be paid a huge amount more than I currently am, for working in exactly the same way. I personally wouldn’t pay thousands for a handbag, because it doesn’t fire me up, and because I don’t need it, and because it won’t improve my life. Some women think differently. I saw a programme the other day in which a woman whose £30,000 handbag, containing £110,000 cash, was snatched by a thief in a London store.  Luckily she got it back, but I couldn’t get my head around the fact that her bag cost as much as 3 really decent motorbikes! Another programme showed a guy buying a £15,000 pair of earrings for his girlfriend. I was shouting “No! what are you thinking? You can get a pair of bloody good bikes for that money!” It is all relative, you see. Horses for courses.

I believe my consultations are worth every penny and more, and I have repeat customers so some people obviously agree. But I know for sure that a few wouldn’t, probably because they haven’t heard what they wanted to, and/or they don’t like my style. It is the way it is.

So, in terms of value, something, anything, is only ever worth what another will pay for it. I have given many stage shows for free, in which the proceeds go to charity. But I have also cut out some of the old customer base by raising my prices. Not all business is good business. The customer is not always right (there, I’ve said it!), and we need to prune things every now and then, regardless of the type of service we are offering. I like the nature of my business. I see it as a worthwhile service, and I give 100%. It is often hard, draining work, but has its shining moments (like any job within the self – help or service industry). I have no issues where pricing is concerned, although I have done in the past. I know how difficult it can be for many people to value their own work and business, and how uncomfortable it can feel to discuss that dirty subject…….MONEY! However, I can tell you now…….I have been really, honestly skint, whilst working myself to the bone, and I have been better off, whilst working myself to the flesh (rather than the bone!) and I know which one I prefer! I am currently working on ideas that will boost my income and expand my business…….and I have no shame whatsoever!

 

 

 

 

 

Are you OUT OF YOUR MIND……living inside someone else’s? Here’s to those who dare to aspire!

I have been asking about the nature of mind a lot, recently. I have become more and more aware that the way we habitually think and believe and behave IS who we are….who we become……or don’t become.

I am aware that we cannot function in this physical, material world, without the brain. But I have seen dead people……they have ‘gone’, somehow. You can see the body, but yet the essence of that individual is absent. I watched the last minutes, on TV, of Ayrton Senna, and sobbed uncontrollably. Even as I type this, I can feel the tears welling. His body appeared to be so vulnerable, but yet the spirit of that man had been more than immense. Don’t leave us! Your life force is so great, so purposeful……but seeing your body, so still, immobilised, inching out of this world……leaves us raw, afraid…..if YOU go, what sense can we make of life? I talk to him sometimes, as I do to Jimi Hendrix ……and I cannot absolutely say that they respond to me, but I feel that their essence is still alive out there….that the passion, the talent, the desire, is still a tangible force for us to draw upon. I don’t want only the soggy bread of everyday, security – based life to be all I can call upon…….I want to be blown away, mesmerised, humbled…..to learn from those who are not afraid to stretch and snap the boundaries of acceptable and do – able.

And it seems clear to me that the brain and the mind are not one and the same thing. One impacts upon the other, one evolves and develops the other. The brain of a physicist is not likely to allow him/her to become a couch potato who never learns anything new, never asks massive questions, never pushes boundaries. But this compulsion to go beyond what can  be ‘seen’ cannot come purely from brain function. The brain alone can’t be responsible for the individual’s creative and responsive evolution. I have met people who are clinical in their approach to everything. I once asked such a woman if she had ever seen a sunset, and found it to be so beautiful that merely seeing it was not enough…..if she had experienced the desire to BE a part of it? She had no idea what I was talking about…..her mind was not programmed that way. She struggled to feel something that could not be rationalised, and had nothing to do with physical and material comfort.  Intellect comes from the brain……but the experience of experiencing something, at a ‘feeling’ level, comes from a different place. Ayrton Senna had to have an intellectual understanding of the mechanics and dynamics of motor racing…. and he possessed that, but also something else…..an emotional, intuitive intelligence, spiritual connection to something greater than himself……and on the day he died, he was afraid. He knew, somewhere within him, that something big was coming. As did Niki Lauder, the day he had the accident that almost killed him. Observing their thoughts, their actions, over the week – ends in question, caused me to believe that they instinctively ‘knew’…..but still, decisions had to be made. One lived and one died. But both will always be spirits I cherish and give thanks to…..they operated from the state of ‘mind’ I aspire to. One came from a wealthy family, but worked his way through Formula 1, earning his accolades. The other came from a financially comfortable family who disagreed with his choices, leaving him to make his own way, almost bankrupting himself in the process……but his mind was set……and even severe injury was not enough to cause him to concede. The mind IS who we are, and who we become…..and our programming begins very early in life. Only the most determined, the most passionate, the most driven and visual human beings will ever really scale the heights of life. Many of the most financially successful people do not have much in the way of formal education…….qualifications have not been the secret of their success. One individual can break an ancestoral line……..can be the strong, rather than the weak link, in a firmly established chain that will resist non – conformist behaviour with every ounce of its being.

If you have the ability to recognise your own programming, if you can develop the capacity to see your own mind, to feel its essence (which is not the same as intense, analytical brooding), to realize where your beliefs, ideas, motivations and driving forces, come from…..if you can pick yourself out of the jumble of everything that is actually OTHER people who are living in your mind, along with their philosophies, instructions, attitudes, fears and prejudices, and if you can decide for yourself what you are aspiring to, what you will put your own neck on the line for, you will be coming from an immensely powerful place……..a place at which a highly active brain combines with a consciously defined mind to make something truly great happen……something so meaningful it is likely to outlive you!