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Have I finally sold out, by using the term ‘psychic’..? Maybe a little!

Have I finally sold out, by using the term 'psychic'.._

Anyone who knows me, or has used my services, knows how determined I have been to avoid using the term psychic, where anything to do with my business is concerned. I did use it, several years ago, but I was never really happy with it, and finally settled upon ‘intuitive consultant’. 

And in terms of what I was trying to achieve, and what I was trying to avoid, it worked, to a certain degree. You see, having been involved in this line of work for 25 years, and having had a wide range of experiences within it, I managed to figure out what made sense to me, and what left a bad taste in my mouth. Not only that, the more I learned, the more I understood that ‘psychic’ has its limitations, and that alone, it often isn’t good enough. But I also discovered that there are a lot of folk out there who don’t see it the same way.

This example might explain where I am coming from. A female customer might ask me when she is going to meet the man she will marry, and what he looks like, what he does for a living, and will he love her the way she deserves to be loved? And she only wants straightforward, black and white psychic predictions, with no guidance or food for thought. Now, as I intuitively tune in to her, I can see and feel that things are not going to unfold in a nice, neat, orderly fashion, and that she has more than one potential future ahead of her, dependent upon her approach, and the decisions she chooses to make. She will need to become aware of the beliefs and the expectations she is harbouring, that are going to get in the way of attracting the kind of relationship she hopes for… so that she can actually make those changes, and attract that relationship. Otherwise, the end result will not be the one she ideally wants, and she is likely to end up believing that life, and men, have let her down. So, I am duty bound to explain all of this, and predict for her two potential futures: in one, she stays on the pathway she is on, makes no or few changes, and eventually hooks up with a guy who disappoints her in the same way that all of the others have; in another, she gives genuine consideration to the insights offered, consistently works on healing the now unhelpful programming, and ends up aligning herself with the kind of partner she really wants, and is now actually ready for. In short, she receives insight, food for thought, and two sets of predictions: if you do A, this will happen; if you do B, then that will happen. 

Now, to me, all of the above makes perfect sense, but on more than one occasion I have heard: “You are supposed to be a psychic! I am not paying you for your advice – I just want predictions!”

I then came to realise that travelling out to conduct group bookings (which I did for around 20 years), was attracting a high percentage of people who either wanted to know only what I could ‘pick up’ about them (for entertainment, or ‘testing’ purposes), or those who only wanted to hear a fairy story about the future. And some were disrespectful, booking in and then not showing up, or seeing it as a boozy night of fun for the girls. Not all of my customers from those days fell into those categories, of course – I met some really lovely people, who couldn’t have been nicer. But I began to realise that the term ‘psychic’ itself was the actual problem – and that it can have very negative connotations, and certainly has a bad reputation out there in the modern world… one that I didn’t want to be associated with. So, I stopped travelling out, and changed my title… and my face to face business sank like a brick. However, after regrouping, I quickly increased my online business, though of course the problem didn’t vanish overnight. Throughout the years I periodically found myself continuing to explain and justify my title of ‘intuitive consultant’, whilst doggedly resisting the label of ‘psychic’!

However, recently, I have started to become more philosophical about the whole thing. I no longer have the same fear of being hauled over the coals on the internet, accused of giving ‘advice’, rather than being a ‘real’ psychic (even though I have earned an excellent track record for accurate long term prediction!). The fact is, I HAVE been using the psychic aspect of my mind, all along (prediction comes from the psychic aspect of mind, and insight comes from the intuitive aspect of mind). And I have come to recognise that by not using the term psychic, I am probably limiting the amount of traffic that passes through my website… good, bad, and indifferent!

You see, there are many, many genuine, experienced and authentic psychic readers out there, who have been working hard for years, and who have earned their stripes… but the internet has opened things up for thousands of individuals/groups/organisations to pop up and flog what can only be described as psychic fast/junk food… for which, sadly, there seems to be a hungry demand. However, my own research has revealed to me that the biggest single cause for complaint against these organisations, by their customers, is that they do hear pretty much what they want to hear at the time… only to realise, further down the line, that they have been fed a pile of BS. And unfortunately, it is getting harder and harder to sort the wheat from the chaff.

I now feel that I have established myself well enough as a consultant who uses both intuitive and psychic aspects of mind, when producing a consultation (or a reading, as some prefer to call it), and that I can afford to relax my own rules a little! I am, after all, in business to earn a living – still here, 25 years down the line – and I need to face the fact that I have to be able to compete, but without selling out. Nothing has changed; I still approach my work in the same way, and my consultations will continue to be delivered in the same vein. It is just that the my title, and the website name, are different… and so maybe, after all these years of avid resistance to being labelled as a fortune teller/psychic, I HAVE sold out… just a little!

(Interesting fact: my Paypal stats reveal that, consistently, 25 % of my monthly business is new… which means that 75% comes from returning customers. I am still chewing that one over, but it is a good thing… I think!).


Whether you believe it or not… you DO have an aura!

I remember making my way around Tesco, late one Saturday afternoon, and bumping into all kinds of things, in the strangest of ways… I felt as if I was somehow ten times wider, and seriously struggling to manoeuvre my way along the aisles. I recognised that it wasn’t my physical body that had suddenly extended itself, but my energy field (or aura). I had just completed a group booking, which included a number of individuals who were definitely not in good place, and who were awash with with varying degrees of bitterness and hopelessness, and I felt as if I had absorbed, and retained, a whole load of heavy energy… which in turn caused me to feel physically bloated and stupidly clumsy. I finished shopping as quickly as I could, and got the hell out of there, before I brought down an entire display!

Of course, there is no scientific proof that every sentient being has an auric field, but that doesn’t automatically mean that it isn’t true (well, in my opinion, anyway). It is the aura that intuitive consultants are ‘reading’, whilst tuning in to a customer, but they aren’t the only ones who do it… we all connect with the energy field of other people, usually without even realising that we are doing so. We can find ourselves being attracted to, or repelled by, people we have only just met, without being able to explain exactly why; it is just a ‘feeling’, we tell ourselves.

We can also be unconsciously drawn to another because there is something within our auras that match… and it doesn’t always have to be a healthy thing! In the past, I had a history of attracting angry, aggressive men into my life (good old childhood programming!), which I finally woke up to and worked on. However, old habits die hard, and one day as I was driving home, I passed a young man thumbing for a lift, on the opposite side of the road. Now, for obvious reasons, I don’t normally offer lifts to strange men, especially when I am alone in the car or with my daughters, but something made me turn the car around and head back to pick him up. He was incredibly grateful, explaining that he had to get to get to a town about 20 minutes away, but had no money for bus fare. I told him that I would take him, and as we travelled along, he poured out his tale of woe.

He was being taken to court by his ex, for harassment and a number of other issues, but didn’t have the train fare, and so was hoping that the benefits office could help him. He had also fallen out with his mother, over his involvement with drugs, and needed to find somewhere to live. As we neared his destination, he pointed to a young woman pushing a baby buggy, and informed me that she was another of his exes, and the mother of his baby… but that she was refusing to allow him access to the child. I dropped him off, gave him all of the change I had in my purse, and wished him well. He was genuinely grateful, and I drove away feeling good about myself. But then it clicked with me. Yet again, I had inadvertently been attracted to the energy of an angry, frustrated, aggressive male… without even a word passing between us! Wow, I thought… still some work to be done, then.

I do believe that, like a store room, our aura requires a clear out every now and then. We really need to be aware of what we consistently allow into our minds, and who we regularly associate with. We can also assess the state our own energy field, by recognising how we are habitually feeling, the kind of thoughts we have that tend to dominate, and the ways in which we usually react to the world. We also need to be aware of the energetic impact we have have upon others; do we uplift them, or drag them down? Are we aligning with them positively, or negatively?

I also believe that, when we have finally come through a tough time, we can absolutely benefit from aura/energy clearing, and that we will probably need a number of sessions. Of course, we are likely to get more out of it if we feel that we are ready to start moving on, but we can still benefit even if we aren’t quite sure… after all, every little helps (said the old lady, as she wee’d in the sea!).

I haven’t even scratched the surface of auric/energy fields, in this blog, but at least it is a teeny weeny bit of food for thought. It doesn’t matter who you are, what you do for a living, where you live, or how much money you have – you DO have an energy field that collects and retains information about you and your life experiences. And it is a magnetic force field; if you are consistently attracting people and situations that are hurting your life, you might need a de-cleanse… but if you have one, make sure that you DON’T go muddying it up again by falling back into old habits!

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