So what do you make of THIS reading? Is it your kind of thing, or not?

I have been clearing out my inbox (something I haven’t done for a while!) and sifting through my contacts, with a view to creating a new and updated mailing list, containing only the details of those who want to be there!

I came across the following email, sent to me by a friend in February 2006. It was a copy of a consultation she had paid for and received, from a woman on Ebay. I had recently joined Ebay myself, as a reader, at that time, and we were trying to figure out exactly how it worked. Anyway, this particular lady had amazing feedback, hailed as being incredibly accurate, which is why my friend decided to buy from her. I have not edited or altered the following typed consultation….and I will leave it up to you to decide what you make of it! There were one or two things that kind of made sense, but she was charging, and receiving, pretty good amounts of money…

Dear C********,
thank you for trusting me to read your cards.
i have studied your photograph and feel that i have been able to make a connection to you.
before i start on your actual reading i would like to say that the tarot is a guide to what lies ahead ,but you are the person with free will and choices that determine your destiny.
i am reading gypsy cards and laying a traditional celtic cross spread.
one of the first cards drawn is the strength card.this is the card that tells me something about you and to some extent it defines you.This card shows that you are only now coming into a phase of your life where your true strength(s) are going to become evident-to yourself and to others around are an intelligent and ambitious lady who has immense passion,harness that passion to a career  or business venture and you would almost certainly succeed.the question is would this passion and determination work well in partnership? i believe so.a man with blue eyes is shown as being significant in a future project.personalities will clash along the way but not unbearably so.i believe that you would actually compliment each others different whilst the cards are not saying that you WILL work together,it is certainly a viable option.
you have the psychics card yourself,that in itself is not unusual,most of us have some degree of psychic ability.its the positioning of the card that is all have very strong natural intuition or gut instinct and an interest in alternative areas and are very good at spotting developing trends and adding a personal are an intelligent and caring lady with an enquiring mind and a compassion and understanding for others.just learning to recognise and accept your natural intuition without questioning it too much will make a great difference to your life.So far so good..but all cards have a negative side  as well as a think TOO much!!you will also  be destracted as seeing everything from every different angle is not always a can talk yourself out of taking action and can lose can be hurt quite easily as you are one of lifes sensitives and can also feel as if you are not being listened too!!
the house move question is not will want to move but there are setbacks and delays along that path and i do not see the move taking place this year(i am rubbish at predicting timescales,but this reading is for approx 6-8 months ahead and there are aspects from further ahead throw in)
this is a rollercaster of a time ahead of you with  emotional highs and lows.
your are going to achieve a personal goal that boosts your confidence.this is a wish fullfilled card.
you love and are loved in return
i am picking up on a lot of movement and short journeys around your husband.there will be distance between you at times and that will worry you.i am not being given that it is anything major.
i cant see what your career is, so i will give the pointers that i have picked up on and see if it makes sense to you.
an idea,already discussed light heartedly with friends,will take hold,
i see you working for independantly  rather than for a large organisation.
using your skills and your creative enthusiasm  to promote a service/product that is different to anything available at this time.although alternative ideas are so strongly highlighted,you will make use of modern technology to widen your scope.
the next 18 months is going to bring a series of changes to your life,i believe that almost all of them are changes for the personally are ready for changes,challenges and the rewards that they is very much moving on to the next installment in your will have strong links to overseas at a later date too.
i hope that this reading has relevance to you, there is so much to look forward too and get excited doors are closed to you and i feel that the only area that you will find difficult initially is pushing yourself forward.
love and light
please feel free to contact me if this reading  is unclear or if it  raises new questions!

My friend and I also had a typed ‘reading’ from another person, without either of us being aware that the other had done so. I only discovered that we had coincidentally been drawn to the same reader when she emailed a copy of her consultation to me….and I realised that, word for word, it was IDENTICAL to mine, apart from our names. Once again, this person had brilliant feedback. Of course we both complained…she to Ebay, and me to the so – called reader. My friend got nowhere, and the response I received was certainly NOT from the person who had created the typed reading, because he/she could barely string two words together and couldn’t spell. The reading itself had been nicely written and presented, though very flowery and vague.

I tried to figure out WHY we had both been drawn to that (non) reader, apart from the excellent customer feedback. And I think it came down to the photo (which certainly wasn’t of the person in question!), an image of a smiling, warm and friendly looking young man.

It’s scary, isn’t it, how easily we can be hoodwinked and fooled, and how far a bit of sugar – coated flattery can go? For me, the worst part was the number of customers who were so impressed! And this is why intuitive work has such a bad press. And it IS a real shame that so many people would rather have something vague but complimentary and reassuring , instead of something with substance and authenticity. A woman once said to me, at a car boot sale, upon discovering what I do for a living, “Huh, I’m in the WRONG job…..I’d get easy money if I was doing what YOU do!” Well, in some ways, she wasn’t wrong, given the dark under – belly of the so – called psychic world…..but that didn’t stop me fantasising about flooring her with a punch, though! 


Not so Woo Woo…intuitive business guidance can save dollars, time, energy and reputation!

The Urban Dictionary.


woo woo

Unfounded or ludicrous beliefs.

Belief in talking to the dead, belief in telekinesis, in fact any belief not founded on good evidence, the poorer the evidence the more Woo Woo the belief.


The first email I opened and read this morning set my mental and emotional mindset for the day, in a very positive way!

It was from a customer who received her recording yesterday, a ‘mini’ consultation, 5 predictions on one specific subject. That particular listing does clearly ask the customer to state the subject they wish me to focus on, and also provide a brief outline of the current situation. However, maybe 40% of purchasers don’t provide any background info, and this lady was one of those. She said she wanted me to predict on her career, and that was it.

I knew nothing about her business/career, but I explained exactly what I was seeing and feeling, whilst ‘tuning in’. Now, given the contents of the finished consultation, there was a strong possibility that it was going to sound incredibly dramatic and a bit crazy….but it was what I was seeing, and so I all I could do was explain it as clearly as I was able to.

What I read this morning made me laugh out loud, in awe and wonder at the power of intuitive intelligence, and reminded me of what my work is REALLY all about!

The customer understood all that I had explained, because the circumstances were already in the early stages of play. She recognised the person I warned her was potentially very problematic for her, and she had been feeling incredibly anxious, uncertain as to how to proceed. As a result of the consultation she had reached certain conclusions, and made a couple of definite decisions that left her feeling relieved and more empowered. I genuinely believe that that £12 consultation has the capacity to save her hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars, hours of wasted emotional energy, AND her business reputation. Of course, the consultation alone has no power. The power still lies with the customer, and her willingness to be open to the insights provided, using them for her own benefit.

And you know, yesterday, I’d asked the energy of attraction to bring me a sign, within the next 24 hours, that I am indeed on track towards the goals I am working hard to achieve. So thank you (never forget to be grateful). Oh, and don’t forget that other thing I put out there at the same time, please….

I have actually read for this customer once before, some time ago, on the subject of love. And she’d responded very differently. Not rudely, but sadly. I didn’t tell her what she wanted to hear (although it was clear that she actually knew I was speaking the truth, deep down inside!). And for her to return as a customer, she must have found her previous consultation helpful, with ongoing consideration. The problem with ‘love’ consultations is that they are fraught with potential difficulty, because people are in a completely different place, emotionally speaking, especially when feeling insecure, or rejected, or lonely. But still, the reason for having an intuitive consultation is exactly the same, regardless of the subject: To gain insight and information that can be used to help us in our decision making…to empower us to make the most productive choices, and take the most empowering actions.  THAT’S intuitive intelligence at its absolute best……AND the reason I am still investing time and energy in this arena, despite the ‘woo woo’ reputation!#intuitivebusinessguidance


13 things to do for your future self, today.


Take some time to stop, breathe, and really ‘feel’ how your life is, right now. Be honest with yourself about how it really is, at this moment in time.

Don’t push uncomfortable feelings away, or just continue on auto pilot.

Consciously think about all of the good stuff in your life, then consciously think about the not so good stuff.

Look ahead, and ask yourself what you currently see. Not what you hope or wish for, but what you actually see, based on how things are, right now.

Ask yourself how what you are seeing causes you to feel.

If it causes you to feel hopeful, take some time to work out if you could increase the momentum.

If it causes you to feel hopeless, helpless or just downhearted, take some time to work out what you would prefer to see, that would leave you feeling better. 

Work out where you yourself could be better. Not perfect, or saintly, or self – sacrificial, but better. 

Remind yourself of all the stuff no – one else is going to do for you…the things that only you can do, for yourself.

File away an image, a feeling, a sense of the future you would prefer to see, as you look ahead, so that you can revisit it often.

Remind yourself that nothing ever stays the same, and that you will continue to move through space and time, whether you do anything different or you don’t. In another year you will be a year older, regardless.

Take one step today, toward your future self, and your future experience of life.

Tomorrow morning, do the whole thing again.



When you’re trying to be something to everyone…and THEY are being d**ks!

Yep, it’s a bit of a confrontational title, but it recently struck me just how many people are struggling with life, because others, usually their loved ones, are being incredibly self – centred. I am not talking about myself here, I am glad to say. Although I have a busy and demanding life, I am not in the unfortunate position of being consistently on the receiving end of someone else’s bad attitude (in the past maybe, but not now).

However, I have come across many worn – down, weary individuals who are getting up each morning, pasting on a smile, holding their breath in, and tackling the demands and resistances of those they feel responsible for. I have had many customers who are in this position, and sadly there is a limit to what I can do. They hope (and without hope, where would we be?), that somehow, someway, things will change…if they can just keep going that bit longer. 


And you know, they’re right to hope. Because time always marches on, and the circumstances we find ourselves in today will change naturally, over time, even if we do nothing different. Children grow up, elderly parents die, dysfunctional relationships improve or reach an end. It sounds harsh, but it’s true. How many times have you thought “I have NO idea how I am going to get out of this situation”, and yet you did. Me too. Here I am today, with the worst of times behind me. 

However, that is little consolation when you are gritting your teeth in the here and now, torn between people you love who just won’t get along, treading on eggshells, trying to figure out solutions that suit EVERYONE….with you just being happy and grateful to have ONE day of relative peace (from your relatives!).

And of course there is plenty of advice for those of us with this kind of problem:

Put yourself first

Ignore them

Tell them straight

Refuse to get involved

Don’t react to them

Slip extra strong sleeping pills into their dinner, and put your feet up (oops sorry…thinking aloud….probably better to ignore this one!)

There IS some common sense in all of these nuggets of wisdom….but if it was that easy, we wouldn’t have the problem in the first place!

So, if you are the kind of soul who sacrifices your own wants and needs for the sake of collective harmony, if you are the one who is aware of everyone else’s ‘issues’, whilst they remain blissfully unaware of exactly how their attitude and behaviour are impacting you, if you have become the central pivot that keeps everything functioning, ask yourself four questions:

How did I actually become the central pivot? 

What would happen if I ceased to be the central pivot….what if I died, or was abducted by aliens, or sent to prison, for example…what would happen then?

Am I willing to continue to be the central pivot until the dynamic changes, naturally, as life moves on, or are there SOME changes I could make now, that would make the process easier for me to handle?

How will I feel about myself, in the bigger picture if I choose to remain as the central pivot….will I feel angry with myself and others, or will I look back and believe that I did the best and right thing, in line with my own personal values, standards and ethics?


You see, you are in this position because you naturally feel responsible for others, because your values are big ones, bigger than those of the people you love but are struggling with. You are in this position because you are a caring person, a solution – seeker, because you have inner – world strength, and because you refuse to lie down and give in, expecting someone else to take the weight. Unfortunately, with all of that comes responsibility….which seems really unfair! More is expected of the strongest, less is expected of the weakest or most self – interested. By being stronger, you have to become stronger still! 

But you will never give up….because this is you, through and through. Because you would find it hard to accept and live with yourself if you didn’t keep going, even though you crave freedom from the effort, the stress and the strain. Because you have something so many others don’t have…a reasonable attitude, flexibility, a forgiving heart (even if it sometimes slips into a dark place!), the ability to see the bigger picture, a willingness not to make everything about you. And you will continue to pay the price, because that feels better to you, overall, than short – changing your own values and ethics! 

Having said all of that, you can probably compromise with yourself, and make SOME changes….start with just one. Make an agreement with yourself. “I will continue to do this, but I AM changing that”. And stick with it until it becomes a habit, not just for yourself, but for the tricky – dickies you are dealing with! They may well need to be re – trained, slowly but steadily (too fast and they will resist with every inch of their being). And you know, it is perfectly okay to love someone but not always like them. There’s a saying that sums it up nicely….a friend in need is a pain in the arse! 

I am going to finish this blog by touting for business (there’s always someone trying to sell us something!): I have opened an online shop, selling downloadable audio recordings…bite – sized chunks of self – help, and my most recent addition is entitled: Anxiety! Let it be your friend, not your enemy! You might find it helpful, and it IS reasonably priced! The link is below, and even if you don’t find anything that catches your attention today, keep checking in, because I will be adding more products. My business is all about personal empowerment…and YOU, the pivot, need to be fed regularly, if you are to have the will and the strength to do what is natural to your spirit!








2 servings of food for thought! Breaking bad habits and reprogramming the subconscious mind.

First serving of food for thought: Become aware of the consistent little habits that are having an unhelpful impact…..and break them!

Well, at least begin the process of breaking them today, and then continue with the process tomorrow, and then the next day, and the next…..until you no longer need to, because those darned habits no longer exist! 

I am nestled in bed as I type this, with a soft, plump cat curled up against my leg, and the first cup of tea of the day on the bedside table. Not a bad habit and not one that I want to break. However, I automatically reached for a packet of cheese Quavers, my favourite breakfast snack…..and stopped myself. I am not hungry right now. I would have mindlessly opened them and shovelled them in, whilst typing (albeit sharing with the cat), without even really tasting them. The Quavers aren’t the problem. The problem is the habit of mindless eating, and one I intend to break…..starting from now!

I also have to be aware of the habits that kick in the second I begin to emerge from sleep. The first thought of the day can so easily be “Right…WHAT do I need to tackle today?” Followed by “What time is it, how much business do I have in, how much money have I got, what do I need to pay, what else can I do….?” This stuff makes me feel ‘safe’, because it gives the illusion of control, and is familiar to my ego and my body….but it is a ‘blocking’ habit. It blocks the actual flow of creative energy, and reinforces the story of struggle I have long been sharing with the energy of attraction (see my previous blog!). And even though I kind of already knew about my first – thoughts – of – the – day habit, thinking about it, putting it in black and white and reading it back, has given me a jolt. What have been I doing to myself and my goals?? Talk about getting in your own way!


Second serving of food for thought: Re – set and refresh your conscious mind! 

Instead of allowing another day to do its thing, whilst you tag along, remind yourself that time just disappears, and prod your conscious mind out of auto – pilot mode. Just because you always do this and that, and have the same conversation with the same people, and watch and listen to the same kind of stuff, it doesn’t mean that life IS this way…it means that life has BECOME this way! Some degree of routine is necessary and helpful, but routine has the capacity to rise up and take over, demoting the conscious mind to a bit – player in the film of your life!

Whenever we are living unconsciously, we are allowing the subconscious to run the show. Think about all of the things we do automatically, whilst we’re caught up in thinking about something else. Driving a car. Everyone gets from A to B without being 100% aware of what is going on, most of the time. So WHO is driving the car? Our subconscious! It knows what it is doing, because it has been programmed that way. It willingly takes the wheel, only handing it back to the conscious mind when something ‘unusual’ occurs, such as the car in front suddenly and unexpectedly braking.

And that is because the subconscious doesn’t think outside of its own box, and doesn’t create anything new… is a store of programs, that we ourselves, using our conscious mind, have created and filed away. ALL of the stuff we now know how to do without deliberate, conscious awareness. We don’t have to re – learn how to drive a car every time we get behind the wheel (well, most of us, anyway!). We don’t have to ‘think’ about how to make a cup of tea, get dressed, read the paper, put the washing in. The subconscious mind is there to allow us to live and develop and grow. It frees the conscious mind to think and imagine and create, and form programmes to file away for future use (the third aspect of mind, the UNCONSCIOUS, is a deep, dark cave filled with all of the stuff even the subconscious can’t handle, but that’s another story for another day!).

The subconscious retrieves information for us, too, stuff we know but can’t bring immediately to (conscious) mind. I was once trying to remember a particular person’s name, but had to give up. That night, lying in bed and almost asleep, the forgotten name suddenly flashed across my mind….I could almost hear my subconscious proudly yelling “Got it…found it!” It had obviously rooted through its filing system until it located the correct info, but then had to wait until my conscious mind was out of the way, in order to be able to deliver it. I love it when that happens! 

The problem is, WE can become lazy and unimaginative, and use our conscious mind less and less, relying heavily on our subconscious to get us through the day. And we can use our conscious mind negatively, programming our subconscious with really unhelpful and self – destructive beliefs, knowing that it is never going to argue with us….it just accepts, and continues to deliver!

And if we are not updating our subconscious regularly, with new and helpful programmes, we cannot possibly change, and we cannot grow and develop. We will grow older, in our body, with the same old mind we always had. Age alone doesn’t produce wisdom and vision, which is why there ARE ignorant old people on the planet! If we are prisoner to our routines, if we fail to feed our subconscious with new, healthy and interesting information, we will continue to think, believe, feel and act in the same old way, leading to the same kind of experiences, which will further strengthen those programmes that are preventing us from exploring our greater potential…’s a treadmill no – one wants to be stuck on! And God himself couldn’t give predictions of health, wealth and good fortune to the person who’s subconscious mind is running the same old, over – used, non – fresh programmes that have been in place for so long they are gathering dust!


It’s simple and obvious. Think consciously, often and regularly. Be open to new information and ideas. Be aware when you are slipping back into auto – pilot, and take control of the wheel. Use your imagination positively. Involve yourself in some form of creativity, even if you aren’t a master. Listen to interesting and informative stuff on the internet, whilst you are getting dressed, cooking the tea, doing the housework (there will always be SOME degree of time available). Don’t keep filling your head space with crap, such as nasty soaps, ‘real life’ stories of abuse and deceit, and celeb drama (or at least seriously limit your exposure to it). I have heard people say “Ah yeah, but I LIKE that stuff….it’s fun!” No it isn’t… is s**t, and if you force – feed it to your subconscious, you might as well eat a daily diet of s**t yourself! 

If we want to keep growing and developing, and exploring, and creating new possibilities, we have to become consciously conscious, as often as possible! The energy of attraction is always aware of where our real focus is, even if we pretend that WE aren’t! And once we become aware of something we know we need to address, we cannot become unaware, even if we behave as if we have. So we might as well go the whole hog and regularly create new, inspirational programmes (habits!), repeating them until our subconscious accepts them as ‘truth’, and files them away for ongoing use!#subconsciousmind 




The LAW of attraction? I was wrong…it is ENERGY of attraction!

I talk and write a lot about the dynamic of attraction, for two reasons. Firstly, I am fascinated by synchronicity, and the impact of it upon my own life, and secondly, because of the nature of my work.

And I have come to the conclusion that there is no LAW of attraction (a principle of attraction, maybe) and my issue is with the word itself. We human beings seem to relish the idea of punishment and reward,  and often judge things as being good or bad, or right or wrong….black or white. And we love the idea of Karma taking revenge on those who have wronged us….

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If a status like this ever appears on my Facebook page, I immediately delete the person who posted it, from my ‘friends’ list, but maybe I should be shaking with dread and fear…..with God now obviously on their side, my own comeuppance (viewed from a ring – side seat) is probably just around the corner. I am disappointed with you, God….you’re hanging out with some pretty dumb – ass, dubious people!

But maybe Karma, like attraction, has nothing to do with punishment or reward, and everything to do with results and outcome. We are always, always setting something in motion, and EVERYTHING leads to something, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant. Of COURSE we have to have man – made laws on planet Earth…I am not suggesting that every act of wrong – doing should be ignored. I am saying that Karma is about cause and effect, about outcomes, and balance, and that there is no such thing as a LAW of attraction…..but there IS an ENERGY of attraction! 

The problem is, most of the time it isn’t obvious!

And there is another problem. We have come to believe that the energy of attraction is largely about stuff…..material things…..about good luck, and having things go the way we want them to.

So, the way we have come to understand it is that karma is about punishment, whilst the law of attraction is about reward. And if we are really trying to manifest certain things, but they just aren’t showing up, then we’re not considered significant enough by the universe, and are being ignored at the very least, or deliberately neglected at worst. 

And when the universe has no interest in us, we have no power, and selfish, hurtful, bad people get all of the breaks , whilst we get all of the struggles.

Thank goodness we are wrong. Thank God we are wrong. Because being wrong means that there is hope, and when we change our mind and become right, the energy of attraction will respond accordingly, because it can’t do anything other THAN respond. But as I said earlier, it isn’t always obvious.

There is so much to express and explain where life and the energy of attraction is concerned, and even a hundred blogs couldn’t cover it. Whatever I say will be a mere scratch on an infinite surface. But to give a basic example, someone may ask “Why do I always meet the wrong kind of person, when I am looking for love? Why is life doing this to me…..all I want is to find someone I can trust, and who makes me happy.”

But deep down inside that person has aligned with mistrust and disappointment, where romance is concerned. They are aligned with the painful past, and the fact that they always meet the wrong kind of person. It isn’t easy at all NOT to become aligned with the belief that we will only end up being hurt AGAIN, when we have had the experience more than once. However, all of our reasons don’t cut any ice at all, out there in the energetic world of attraction….it doesn’t sit down and reason things out, it just responds to our deepest, most heart – felt beliefs and feelings.

I myself have been there, done that, and as they say, bought the t – shirt. And not just with relationships…….with….well, most areas of my life! I realised today that an old deep – seated belief is still doing its best to hang on to the sides of my inner world. It is weaker than it was, but it certainly isn’t dead yet. And that belief is that a struggle – free life doesn’t exist for me. I STRUGGLE to imagine a life without struggle….it almost leaves me feeling empty, somehow! And I am not talking about challenge, here. I am not talking about growth. I accept that these are necessary modes of development. I am talking about struggle, about having to earn every victory with blood, guts, exhaustion, sweat and tears. It is me doing it to me, through programming. And it is only me who can undo it to me, through re – programming. I have to be willing to genuinely let go of the struggle, and the idea that anything worth achieving has to cost several pounds of flesh. AND tied up with this wrong belief is another wrong belief….one that says if I have anything too easy, the world will not recognise and appreciate how hard I have worked. Somewhere along the line, I developed a disgust for anyone who appeared to have had it easy (even if they didn’t). And my sense of self – value is tied up with THAT wrong belief! If I am seen to be anything less than resourceful and endlessly willing to juggle plates, I won’t be good enough. In who’s eyes, I am not sure……my own, probably. I am the one who is setting myself up, and I am the one who is aligning myself with the glory of the struggle, more than with the air – punching jubilance of success and achievement.

But at least I am aware, and accept that the responsibility lies with me (regardless of the reasons behind my programming) am I am definitely working on re – aligning myself with a more productive belief! As I said in my last blog, who wants to live in a DED state:

Denial, Excuses, Defensiveness.

Not me.

And everything I have said is true for every single human being on the planet. I have, on occasions, had customers attempt to convince me that they are different from everyone else, that their circumstances really ARE unique, and that they really aren’t able to adopt any other kind of mindset…..whilst still requiring me to predict the kind of future they aren’t aligning themselves with. They will either change their mind at some point, or grow old and die, still believing that it’s different for them. 


In terms of my work, I am a mirror, revealing and reflecting back the customer’s inner world, so they can see more clearly what they have been believing and feeling, and why……and where it is taking them in life. It is an empowering and productive service, though not one that is always immediately easy to accept. I am entirely self – taught, and proud to be so……it has been a hands – on, front – line education, with no ivory towers to hide in or preach from! Stick with me, kid….YOUR success is MY success, and I promise to pull out all the stops, as long as you don’t play DED….





The Law Of Attraction: AVOID heavy intensity if you want productive results!

I really needed a pair of flat boots or trainers, to wear when I go walking with the dog. I have several pairs of boots and shoes with heels, but only two that are flat…..and both are literally falling to pieces. So why didn’t I just go out and buy a pair?

Well, firstly, my money is all earmarked for other things, mostly bills. Secondly, right now, finding the time to actually GO shoe shopping is tricky. And thirdly, I kind of wanted to see whether or not a pair would just show up. And today they did…..sort of.

I was out on an errand, and passed a little charity shop that had randomly sprung up, amongst a row of houses. There were a couple of racks outside, displaying an assortment of boots, shoes and slippers, all in good condition. And all were priced, except for a pair of trainer – boots, which happened to be in my size. I took them into the shop, and asked if I could try them on. They fitted just fine, but then I discovered that they cost a fair bit more than all of the others on display, and I wasn’t so keen (what does that say about me?). Anyway, the lady kindly knocked a couple of pounds off the price, and the deal was done.

The question is, was that the work of the Law Of Attraction, or not? Some will say yes, and some will say no. Some will believe that the trainers should have just shown up, IF it was genuinely down to the LOA, without any physical effort on my part. But you know, having seriously studied and researched the subject, I can say, with hand on heart, that behind any notable thing that has manifested in my life, there has always been either strong emotion or action…..and more often than not, a combination of the two.

And I have reached the conclusion that life IS the Law Of Attraction, and that it is in motion 24 hours a day. It isn’t just something we pick up and use, in order to attract stuff……its thread weaves through the fabric of our life every second of every day. And it operates in different ways, and at different levels…..but it never, ever ceases TO operate. I am definitely going to write a book about this……there is SOOO much to cover!

Anyway, back to the trainers. It is true that I went TO them, and not the other way round. I could just as easily have passed the shop without a second glance, and returned home empty handed. It is also true that I was consciously aware that I was in need of appropriate footwear, for the purpose of tramping over hill and dale…..and so I was looking out for them. However, had they been priced, I would not have even bothered to try them on. And if the ‘other’ lady had been working in the shop that day, the chances are she would not have reduced the price (or so I was led to believe!), and so there WAS an element of ‘chance’ involved!

There was a time (especially after The Secret was released), that it was believed that visualisation, positive thinking and affirmations WERE the way to acquire anything that was desired……and a lot of people ended up feeling incredibly disillusioned. I tried it myself, and like so many others, felt like a failure when my life became worse rather than better (it felt worse because I was waiting for it to magically transform!). But that was because I didn’t yet genuinely understand…..and even now I am still figuring it out.

I thought about all of the major stuff and experiences that have come into my life, just when I needed them, and I realised that there was always a lot of emotion involved, and a lot of genuine need. And always some degree of action.

For example, I ‘attracted’ my first motorbike because I DIDN’T go to a bike rally I had planned to attend. My partner and I had decided to go to a rally that was many miles from where we lived, because our ‘anniversary’ was coming up, and it had been at that particular annual rally that we’d met. However, we realised that we couldn’t afford to go. The cost of petrol, entrance and camping for the week – end (fairly pricey), plus spending money…..we just didn’t have enough. We were disappointed, but I decided to look online, and I came across another rally, nearer to home, which was going to cost quite a lot less….and so we set off. And it turned out to be one of the best decisions we have ever made! Not only was it THE best rally we have ever attended (Last Wolf Mcc I applaud you), not only did we laugh more, harder and for longer, than we had done for a long time, but we met a guy who became a beloved friend, and HE sold me a bike that became beloved……something I so desperately wanted……AND he allowed me to pay for it in 4 parts, AND he bought it to Anglesey from the Wirral, in the back of a van. Now THAT was the Law Of Attraction at its sparkling best! 

But it still has to be said that conscious action was involved. I had no idea that that week – end would lead me to acquire my little bike (which I proudly rode, all the way to Cheshire, to the next Last Wolf Mcc’s rally!)….but it did. I feel I was led…..but it was me who listened and responded. 

And I have found two homes, when the need was absolutely real, and against several odds… listening, and responding with action. I have wanted many things that have not come my way, but then I didn’t have either the absolute need, or the absolute desire. I can’t say that is the way it works for everyone, but it definitely seems to work this way for me. 

Someone once asked me if the Law Of Attraction ‘works’. This lady was incredibly bitter, and could not see that in actual fact it was working perfectly in her life. She was not working on healing her mindset, her outlook, her beliefs, or her attitude, and her experience of the outer world was absolutely matching the darkness of her inner world. She thought that the Law Of Attraction should be about good stuff for her, about things going the way she thought they should, whilst she continued to boil and blister with rage. She was really into revenge and punishment, and proving others wrong, so that she could be right. She wanted what she had lost…..but she had lost it because she wasn’t functioning in a healthy and productive way, in the first place. She first spoke to me about 24 months ago. And when she contacted me again, to ask if the LOA works, she hadn’t moved an inch from her previous stance.

And this brings me to the conclusion: the Law Of Attraction appears to respond productively to strong, meaningful and productive emotion, and it responds productively to passion, and to real need and desire. And some form of decision making and action is usually required, in order to pull everything together, which is highlighted in a little story someone shared with me recently.

She was shopping, and noticed a large chocolate cheesecake, for sale at one particular stall. She thought “Ohh, I’d love one of those! Well, maybe next time!” The following week, she went to the same stall, to buy a small, individual version of the cheesecake, and the guy GAVE her, for free, a large one! He said it had been a competition prize that had not been claimed, and so she might as well have it. She viewed this as the work of the Law Of Attraction……and so it was. But if she had not taken action, if she had not physically taken herself to the stall, with the intention of purchasing what she could afford (the small one), she would not have acquired the large one! And okay, we can all come up with stories about random things that have found us, without any action at all, but more often than not either our own, or someone else’s, action, allows the Law to help us to be where we need to be, in order to benefit from whatever it is we have been ‘ordering’! 

And what we DON’T enjoy is when we have developed the habit of being incredibly INTENSE, and the Law Of Attraction responds accordingly……because that’s all it CAN do! I have never seen excessive intensity lead anywhere good…..and so I came up with this little story today (which I turned into a meme), whilst out walking the dog, in my nearly new trainers!